You're Insecure, Don't Know What For.

I always come across people tweeting about them feeling insecure in Twitter especially the girls. Some of the cliché sentiments I’ve always seen/heard….

“I feel insecure after looking at pretty girls pictures at Instagram”

“Omg. That girl has slender body and thin legs. So insecure can?! ”

“Whatever the blog shop model wears, she looks so gorgeous! If I were to wear, I look no different from a garbage bag”

Insecure means having no confident or uneasy in oneself. It is due to one having a low self-esteem, depression and low self-confidence. It is not about the mental disorder but, it is a state of mind. Insecurities invade when something bad happens to a person. From someone cheating on them, teasing how ugly they are or telling one that the clothes don’t suit them. Yet again, it all lies on society. Society puts so many labels on us. When a girl wears something skimpy, society refers her in being a slut. And when she wears something all-covered up, society deems her as being antiquated. When a girl applies makeup, society considers as a plastic girl – no natural face being outshine. When a girl doesn’t wear any make-up, society judges her as being oh so lazy. Society Society… You cannot just mute their incessant talking. Even if you were to give them a lorry full of diamonds, they were still blabber about how low the values of diamonds are.

Honestly, if I hadn’t seen my friends tweeting about being insecure, I wouldn’t know the actual meaning of it. I asked myself. Why would they be insecure? Isn’t God has given us each natural beauties, talents and personalities? Every human is gifted with different things. It’s up to each individual on how to make their talent be outperformed and recognized by others. Serious talking, I’ve never ever feel insecure. Like. What for? Why must I compare myself from all those ladies out there? Shouldn’t I be appreciative and thankful for what God has given me?  Well at least, I get to breath fresh air every day, eat with my mouth and walk with my two feet.

One will never be satisfied about what God has given them if they were to always look at someone who is perfect or higher in rank. It was said that, one should take the poor as a model for them to reflect on what God has granted us all these years. Example, children in Palestine and India could not have the opportunity to breathe fresh air. It’s polluted with gases and toxics. Why must one be feeling envious about a particular model’s skinny legs? Mostly children in Africa have thin legs as they have no food to eat. We complain that a particular model could always pull off any outfits given to her, be it a sweater or plain dress. But do you know that children in Africa do not have any clothes to wear? Or maybe their clothes are torn.

 Just because you do not have a body like Victoria Secret’s model, a beautiful face like Selena Gomez or slender legs like Kate Moss, it doesn’t mean you are not good enough. Scrub off those negative thoughts and believe in the fact that the only limits that stop you are those limits that you place on yourself. How are you going to be confident when you yourself don’t love your own self?

Reading Hinna Farooq’s blog, she shared with us on what are some of the ways one could implement to drive their securities away which I thought it’s quite true.

1. Accept your flaws. After accepting your flaws no one can ever hurt you. Take me for example, I’ve accepted that I live with a lifelong skin-disorder and I absolutely love the skin I’m in, ever since I made the conscious decision to accept this, no one has ever bugged me or bullied me about it ever since and we’re talking about a girl that was constantly bullied about how ugly her skin looked.
2.  Surround yourself with people giving you good feedback, good but also genuine! This may be difficult at first but once you’ve surrounded yourself with a solid group of people giving you positive feedback then your confidence will defiantly rise up and you’ll feel so much better about yourself. 
3.  Most importantly, believe in yourself, be honest with yourself and love yourself. This links to the first point which is accepting flaws, you can only accept your flaws, if you love yourself. So learn to love yourself make a note about all the good things about you, think deeply about this and write down everything good that comes to your mind. 

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.  (Dr. Seuss)

Btw, this Hinna Farooq hails from London. Assalamu Alaykum! I’m from Singapore!  Nice reading your motivation entries!