Every Haram Love is A Pain

After a forbidden love story, a Muslim girl gets her heart broken; she feels an unbearable hurt … 

let’s face it, that pain is nothing but a fair result for disobeying her Creator.That is nothing but a reminder for her that every Haram love is a pain, only obedience of Allah is a healing It’s a warning to her to repent to her Lord and protect her heart from Allah’s disobedience

"Marry a Religious Woman"

Ibn 'Uthaymeen (rahimahullaah):

"Marry a religious woman. She will neither abuse your right nor reveal your secret and she will take care of your property and your child in the best way." 

[Sharh al-Bukhari, Nikah, 2]

Beauty is Skin Deep

Question:
I am going to be getting married shortly.The girl that I am proposed to, is pious and Deen-conscious. However I'm not too sure of getting married to her because she is not as good looking as my friends wife and others.What should i do?

Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu `alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

You compare the beauty of your friend’s wife to your “wife’’.
What would you do if your wife was more beautiful than your friend’s wife and you came across another woman more beautiful than your wife? When will this comparison stop?

Beauty is relative and competitive. No amount of beauty will fulfil you.
Furthermore, what if you your wife is extremely beautiful but she has bad conduct. She backchats you, screams at you and makes life miserable. Will you still enjoy her beauty?

Beauty is skin deep and temporary. If you chase a woman because of her beauty, what if her form and figure changed upon birth or due to unforeseen circumstances, will you change her?
If you found a woman who is reasonably good looking but has good values and sound character, you should be content with that.

The beauty of a woman is admired for a few days in the beginning of the marriage, thereafter one lives with the conduct of the person. Don’t be deceived by beauty. Don’t compare your wife to other women. Be happy with her as a person. Say to yourself you are happy with her.

And Allah knows best.

By. Mufti Ebrahim Desai

Can Parents Determine My Marriage Partner for Me without My Consent?

Question:
My parents don’t want me to get married to a person I like. How can I convince them? Isn’t it my right to get married to whomever I wish? Do the parents have the right to determine their children’s choices even when the children are following Islam?

Answer:
Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

Thank you for your question.

Communication is very important in matters such as determining a suitable marriage partner. In most cases, parents are looking out for the best, regarding their children. Parents are duty bound to provide encouragement and sincere guidance. However, parents are not to force their children into a marriage. You should respectfully communicate to your parents, your choice of a good spouse. Your consent is mandatory for the marriage to be valid.

“A previously married woman has more right regarding herself than her guardian, and the permission of a virgin must be sought (for marriage).” (Sahih Muslim)

A young woman came to the Prophet (peace and blessings upon him) and told him that her father had married her off against her will. The Prophet (peace and blessings of upon him) gave her the choice (to nullify the marriage or stay in the marriage)” (Sunan Abi Dawud)

“It is not permissible for the guardian to force a sane mature virgin woman to marry... if she refuses (to marry someone), she cannot be made to marry.” (Mukhtasar al Quduri)

And Allah knows best.

Answered by Shaykh Yusuf Badat
Hadith of the Day Imam
Imam of the Islamic Foundation of Toronto and Director of Mathabah Institute

How to know if that person is meant for you?

Oh well, Rasulullah s.a.w said when a muslim sees his brother for the first time, he sees him like as if they know one another for the whole life time! So meaning, if he’s meant for you, the moment you see him or her for the first time, you know you wanna be with them for your whole entire life time till akhirah Insya'Allah.

Marry A Practicing Muslim

• He can make you all smiles when he messages you; lifting up your gloomy mood.
• He can treat you in dining to the most expensive restaurants; just to satisfy your hunger needs
• He can accompany and offer you to carry your shopping bags; just to make sure you always there beside him
• He can surprise you with gifts; to make sure he’s the only guy that make you happy & feel appreciated.

He’s oh so sweet, gentleman and caring doesn’t? But it will be of no meaning if the He we’re talking about here aint religious or practicing the deen. Oh yes, I may sound very sarcastic, biased or antiquated to some. But really. It’s of no use getting a man that aint practicing his religion.

If you get a man whom is upon practicing his religion, then you’re lucky as it will benefit you. A man that studies about religion roughly knows the ways to treat woman in a rightful manner, provides the woman needs and teaches and guides her well.

"More women need to be infatuated by a man with an education, ambition, faith, goals & RELIGION rather than a dude with "swag".

In time to come, Swag doesn’t pay your bills."