Don't Despair - A Post Specially for Afiqah Rosle

He was a good guy back then. Sharing all his joy, going to school together and doing silly things with you. Yes, it's difficult to forget someone you once loved and had crushed on. A man that once you thought meant the world to you has now transformed into a man that you detest seeing the most. All nice things always have its ending.

It hurts to see you(Yes, you Afiqah) always tweeting sad things in twitter. Few months back, I always saw you tweeted how closed you were with your boyfriend. And finally during the internship talk, I finally got to meet him. All men are nice, trust me. Only situations make them change their feelings towards someone. I bet till know you're still are cherishing the lovey dovey moments he had with you right? Eheh. 

Allah places a person into our life for a reason. I'm sure your ex boyfriend taught you a lot of things. I believe you receive wisdom (hikmah) while undergoing this relationship. It's good when I saw you saying that you are going to focus on your religious matters, to forget him. And when reading Quran too, you forget about him slowly. See the wisdom here? 

One may not be that religious or too focus on ukhrawi, but when something happens, s/he turns to our in asking for guidance. 

My point here is he has already left you. There's no use crying over a spilled milk. I'm unsure whether you are in the process of patching things up with him. But, I seriously think one should love Allah first, before she loves someone else. Love your creator first, for He creates you. Then only your creator will give you someone that loves her to you. Allah's decision is Masya'Allah unique, special and awesome. Just leave it to Allah's hands. 

If it's meant to be, it will be. For now, focus on your studies. Love can come later without you searching it. And there isn't to worry if you'll get a bad, hypocrite guy because Allah says in the Quran

'Just as good women are for good men, and good men,for good women' [Surah Nisa 24:26]

As humans, by and at large, whenever they experience break-ups, they will have a degree of arrogance, dislike and not wanting to talk to other party. It's due to ego, pride and shame. Yes, he might have hurt you in one way or another,but as a good Muslimah, always treat a person good; especially to those who have back-bited or ill-treated you. Just eradicate the moments you had with him, never instill hatred in your soul and be good whenever you are talking to him [if you still are though]. As mention in the quran, Allah does not love:

"Those who are arrogant" [Surah Nisa 4:36]

It is so easy to fall in love, yet it is extremely difficult to find those that are deserving of it. Your heart is your most valuable asset so do not cheapen it by making it a commodity sold to the highest bidder. I once read that the one that you come to love should be so lost in the love of Allah, that you would need to go through Allah in order to find them. I am yet to find a single person that fell in love for the sake of Allah and came out disappointed. It doesn’t mean your heart won’t be broken, but it will be a learning experience. If you never want to experience a broken heart restrict your love to Allah and His messenger -Salla Allahu ‘alaihi wa sallam-. Allah only knows how humanly possible that is, but there is no harm in making it our ultimate love. As mention in the quran, Allah does love:

"Those who trust Him" [Surah Imrân 3:159]

Always keep this in mind.If Allah don’t love you, then He wouldn’t test you. So prepare for victory coming to a soul near you.

You might be shocked in seeing me writing a lengthy blog entry about you. Eheh. As a matter of fact, I abhor seeing my friends in such a crestfallen mood, bleak situation and always tweeting sorrow tweets. On top of that, there's one hadith which says;

”None of you will truly believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself”. (Al-Bukhari)

Hehe. I'm the one in green hijab, whereas yours is the one in pink. Simply because the green hijab is much more chubbier and cuter than the other one! HEHE!

Till the next one.